Relationships

When Do You Bail ?

 When you do raise the Red Flag in a new relationship?  It doesn't matter if it's a new  friendship, a new romance or Hell, even a new job.  


When do you raise the Red Flag in regards that something "ain't right".  What's your limit?  How much can you tolerate?  What is your breaking point?


I've always been a pretty independent person.  I've never been in a consistent relationship or had a hot date every weekend.  In fact, my serious relationships have been few and far between.  So when a new person comes along, it tends to be a different kind of start.  Then I get excited about the possibility of a future, a something special and then some of those Red Flags begin to go up that flagpole.  And then I become more guarded and cautious once again.  And if those Red Flags keep waving at me, I begin to lose interest and then I walk away to save myself.  I don’t do drama.   However, as I have gotten older, I begin to question myself about those flags.


What if they are "doable"?  What if they are more tolerable than I believe them to be?  Am I too independent?  Are my expectations too much?  Am I too intolerant?  Or have I grown ?  


I certainly do not regret any past Red Flags that I have encountered as those instincts were pretty spot on.  But this latest Flag has me worried but not scared.  Maybe I have matured?  Maybe I know this Flag is a work in progress?  Something that can be tolerated?  Maybe that Red Flag will turn White.  Only time will tell.  I'm still processing this new and long overdue territory.   Maybe I've been in the bunkers too damn long and I just don't know anything different.  If only I had a map to guide me in the right direction.  


Okay, then.  Done with metaphors.  Haha... sorry, couldn't help it.  Until next time...elizinashe.

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