Sunday, November 19, 2017

Learn From the Animals

Follow Your Tribe
We've all heard the saying "elephants never forget".  I know that to be true. 

Many years ago, I was watching a documentary about a family herd of elephants that some researchers were following.  Now mind you, I'm not in the habit of watching documentaries often but at the time it tweaked my interest so I tuned in for the show. 

So elephants are very family oriented.  They all take care of each other and all look out for the baby.  It truly is a "it takes a village" mentality.  I think that's pretty amazing. 

Why am I telling you about some elephant documentary? (That I watched 10+ years ago.)  Well...I was quite struck and filled with emotion as I watched these animals move through a loss.  There was a pair of sister elephants in this group, one of which had a baby.  As the herd was migrating to their next location for the season, the mother elephant began to lag behind.  The rest of the group began to linger and try and wait for the mother elephant to catch up, but it became clear that something was wrong.  So the sister elephant prods the baby along, the rest of the elephants help push the baby along as the mother elephant stayed behind.  The mother elephant eventually died. 

So the season passes, and the same herd of elephants make their way back to where they came from.  Which meant passing the carcass of the mother elephant that died.  All of the elephants stopped and rubbed their trunks on the remains of their friend.  Including the baby that had grown.  All of the elephants stopped to pay their respects and I assume to grieve as they were making noises and such.  The sister elephant stayed the longest, rubbing her trunk all around her sister. 

I found this level of human understanding quite amazing.  I had tears in my eyes.  I was crying like an idiot over a documentary.  Good thing I was alone at the time.  haha...Regardless, this is something that has stuck in my head for years.  I don't think I will ever forget it. 

I was amazed at the level of compassion, remembrance and empathy that these creatures have in their head.  They have an understanding that we humans could learn from.  Especially in today's world.  Why can't we all be more like the elephants?  There is much to learn from all of our creatures that roam the Earth don't ya think?  I wish more people would think about that a bit more, don't you?  Until next time...elizinashe
Love One Another

Thursday, November 9, 2017

The Grass is Always Greener

Current State of Mind
I go through phases where I do that "I wonder if" mentality.  Meaning, how different would my life be if I made other choices along the way.  That's normal, right?  Is that just a part of growing regardless of your age?

I am certain that if brother had not died, my life would be totally different.  Would I have been happier?  Would I have remained in Arkansas?  Would I have still moved to North Carolina?  Maybe I would have married young and my weekends would be filled with child related activities.  Maybe I would have been totally miserable.  Maybe I would still be spending my time trying to be like him. 

What about that boyfriend back in college.  What if we had married?  Or the guy after a horrible break-up in my late 20s.  Did I dismiss that relationship too soon? 

I'm not complaining about my life as it is.  And I am glad I never married any of those guys as those relationships really didn't have much sustainability.  Or so I believed at that time.  And I still do today. 

I certainly would not have met some of the people in my life today if I had not moved away from home.  I can't imagine my life without them.  I certainly would not have learned about myself either.  I am way stronger than I give myself credit, but I do admit some days are really hard. 

Sometimes I wish I had a guardian angel to remind me that I'm on the right path and if I had made other decisions along the way, the outcome might not have been the best for me.  I wish I had a Clarence.  I could use a little visit like that every once and a while.  Couldn't we all? 

Who is Clarence you say?  Then you need to go back a few years and check out "It's a Wonderful Life".  Get the tissues ready too.  You won't regret it.  Until next time...elizinashe
Someone to Watch Over Me

Monday, November 6, 2017

Ah..the Holidays...

Spice It Up This Year! 
So the Thanksgiving Feast with the Thanksgiving Beast is shortly upon us.  It will be here sooner than you think.  Better plan out the festivities so you don't have to rush around the last minute.  Perhaps you will take an easy way out and just not do anything at all.  And that's okay too.  Less stress if you really think about it.

My traditional plans for this year have changed.  I'm not quite sure how I really feel about it yet.  Typically I gather with my mother and friends for the said feast with a beast a day or two before, sometimes after, mostly due to work schedules and friend schedules.  This time, I'm not quite sure if it's going to happen at all. 

I suppose if I had a significant other, or a spouse and children in tow, my plans would be different.  But I don't.  I'm the single girl.  Who works.  One who's job always is one to never be closed on Thanksgiving.  Except for a few times.  But these days, hospitals never close.  And it is expected that you will work one major holiday-Thanksgiving or Christmas.  And I'm fine with that. 

But...being that I "always work", my mother has made other arrangements.  Hmm..I guess I'm okay with that but there is a part of me that's a bit miffed too.  I can't help it.  Maybe it's jealousy.  Maybe it's hurt.  I don't know.  Regardless, as long as I don't dwell on the particulars and the solitude prior to my Thanksgiving work week, I will be fine.  It just gets a  little harder each year it seems.  Having a disconnected family has its downside.  A side that seems to trouble me more and more each year. 

I hope that your Thanksgiving Feast is filled with much love, laughter and delicious food.  I may not be able to be with my family, or have the time away from work like I wish, but I know I have wonderful friends and a spectacular work family to keep me afloat.  I really can't complain about that now can I?  Thanks for listening.  Until next time..elizinashe
Blessings For Your Table

Recap

Ahhh....
It's shortly after midnight, but it seems like it should be so much later.  I place blame on the time change.  It gets darker way sooner therefore triggering your brain to slow down and hunker down at home.  Maybe that's a good thing. 

Another shooting.  It's all so senseless.  And once again there will be debates and arguments about gun control.  And once again, some jackass will place blame on terrorists.  But from the beginnings of the investigation, it has nothing to do with outside forces, influences or acts of terrorism outside of our own country.  Just a random ill person who had weapons meant for war.  When will it ever stop?

My time away from work was a mixed bag.  I randomly took some vacation time which made my heart and soul quite happy.  The downside was I got sick during that time and had to cancel special plans.  Ugh...I'm still kind of sad about that.  Oh well....at least I was already off work.  That cabin fever though!  Shew!  Glad I'm over the ick. 

Does anyone ever cross out the "to do " list in their off time?  I used to be so good at that.  Not so much these days.  It seems my time management skills in my personal life slacks more and more.  I think that's going to be a life long battle in my world.  Might as well get used to it, eh?  Oh if only I had a magic wand...

Christmas is coming!  Better get that shopping done.  I refuse to go out and shop on "Black Friday" .  I hate crowds.  And the traffic will be more than ridiculous.  Can't stand it.  I cannot think of anything that I need or want to buy for family or friends in a chaos such as holiday shopping.  It's too material.  And if you're camping out the night before any particular store opens for business, then you may want to reflect on your priorities.  Is it really worth it?  What about the time you will miss being with your said family and/or friends?  Can you buy that in a store?  I think not.

I skim the news to find something entertaining and inspiring so I may write about it.  However, it's all just such crap.  It's rather disheartening.  So until I find something ridiculous, you're pretty much stuck reading about what's in my little head.  Maybe it's time to make up more stories.  Hmm....we all could use a bedtime story regardless of our age don't ya think?  Until next time....elizinashe
Wonder What Lovely Story This Book Holds

Sunday, October 22, 2017

Click to Send

😞 I Don't Feel Good 😞
So I got the crud.  I first thought it was just a head cold, but as time went on, I knew better.  Ugh.  I hate being sick.  It sucks.  Especially when you live alone.  Although my neighbor and another friend offered to bring me stuff if I needed anything.  Fortunately, I had enough creatures of comfort already here so I was good in that department. 

Being that it is a Sunday, my only choice to be seen by a doctor was either the Emergency Room (hell no!) or one of those "walk in " clinics.  One of those clinics is really close to where I currently live.  (Score!)  I went on-line to see what time they opened since I did wake up rather early for a night shifter.  And much to my surprise, I could book my appointment on-line, give them a few particulars about my symptoms, arrive slightly before my chosen time for paperwork stuff and then be seen by the practitioner.  Weird.  But not weird, given today's modern technology and more "face time" with MDs trying to reach out to rural areas and Emergency Departments.  Yep...it's happening.

We book hotel rooms on-line, buy airplane tickets on-line, and reserve cars on-line.  We Uber, Lyft, Match, Amazon, Netflix, Wal-Mart, complete educational degrees and now book medical appointments on-line.  Is it convenient?  Sure...especially in my particular situation for today.  Question is, how far will this "on-line" stuff go?  Will we become so dependent on on-line services that people will lose more jobs to a computer?  Will we become so dependent on technology that we will become numb to human emotion and interaction?  We could debate about this for eons, but I leave it simple.  And what about those who do not have access to a computer? Or have a smart phone?  What happens to them?  

I was happy that I was able to book my own appointment on short notice and be seen by a practitioner.  And sure enough, I had an infection.  The NP spent plenty of time with me and I didn't feel like I was rushed in and out.  I received a thorough exam for the symptoms, and my prescription was sent electronically to a drug store near by.  The wait time was cut in half compared to the "old days".  I was home by noon with meds in hand and a long nap soon followed.  I really can't complain about that.  But again...still makes me think, how far will this "on-line" stuff go?  Just a thought.  Until next time...elizinashe
😉 Click to Confirm 😉

Monday, October 16, 2017

Getting Older

Needing a Peace of Mind
We can't stop the aging process.  It's a natural cycle of life.  I don't necessarily feel old myself, although there are some days that my body tells me different.  Ugh...

I'm relatively healthy.  I eat pretty well aside from a random burger or a pile of Mexican food.  I do have an affinity for sausage and eggs after work though.  I'm pretty sure my LDLs and Triglycerides aren't looking too good these days. Gotta stop that habit. 

Working in the healthcare field sure does make ya think, that's for sure.  I sometimes worry who will be my voice as I age.  Who will take care of me when I can no longer care for myself.  And given the current state of affairs of our healthcare system, how will I pay for it? 

More importantly, my parents are approaching 80 years young.  I am thankful that they are both in good health aside from a couple of normal age related issues.  However, some of those issues do bear a close watch.  And being that my father is living in another state far from me, that worries me quite a bit some days.  How will I know he's okay?  How will I manage his healthcare needs from afar?  How many trips will I need to take to handle his needs? 

My mother lives about 45 minutes from me which is quite close.  But I know there are things that she does not tell me which royally pisses me off.  How can I take care of her needs when she doesn't keep me clued in?  And when the time comes, how will I take care of her needs?  I hope I won't need to find placement for her.  Or my father for that matter.  I hate the idea of either one of them living in a nursing home.  That's just no way to live but I do understand that it is completely necessary in certain situations.   What an ugly side of aging.  Wish I had craploads of money so I can build a couple of "granny pods.  That way I can keep them both close and in a home of their own. 

How will I cope?  How will I know what decisions to make?  Will it be a long process?  Or will they both go quickly and painlessly?  God I hope the latter.  And I hope that I will be emotionally prepared as well.  And what really stresses me out is I will most likely be doing this on my own.  I am the surviving child between my parents.  I have no children of my own, no significant other in my life with no prospects of meeting a good man to be my rock.  Not that I truly need one to survive but it sure would be nice to have another shoulder to rest my worries. 

These are things that run through my head from time to time and I feel like it's been a bit more frequent lately.  It can't be ignored that's for sure.  I will admit it makes me a bit fearful.  And I don't like that feeling.  I wish I would have had enough foresight in my younger days to be more prepared both emotionally and financially.  I wish I would have asked more questions and learned more about planning for your parents future.  I still have time but I feel like it's gonna be a crash course.  Maybe that's the way its supposed to be in my corner of the world.  Who knows.  Time will tell.  Until next time...elizinashe
Let the Fire Inside Guide You

Sunday, September 24, 2017

The New Guy in My Life

Trevor Noah
Okay, so no...I really don't have a new romance as of present, but I do however have a new famous person obsession.  I may be a bit behind the times on this, but then again perhaps not.

I've been hearing about Trevor Noah for some time now.  I've been catching him more frequently on the Daily Show and have seen him on a talk show or two.  He seems to be a really hot ticket these days.  At least in America.

1).  He's really funny and wicked smart. 
2).  He grew up in a difficult time that 90% of us could never understand. 
3).  He's got a keen sense of observation. 

Need I go on?  I saw that he was coming to do a stand-up gig in my town a couple of months ago.  I immediately knew I wanted to go.  And I knew immediately who I wanted to go with me.  For some reason, I felt like this was extremely important to see this show.  Not that I felt like it would be some big political thing or one of those "life changing moments", but I knew I just had to go.  

And so I went.  With my bestie in tow.  And it was all worth it even if we were in the first balcony.

I was lucky enough to find his book about a week prior to the show at a used book store.  I read it in a within a week which is a record for me.  It was painfully funny and very well written.  I felt like I could hear him tell his story as if he was sitting in front of me. 

Trevor grew up in South Africa during the Apartheid with a black mother and a white father.  That was a big "no-no" back then not to mention totally illegal.  (huh?).  This guy lived through some shit, y'all.  Even slept inside a car at night because he did not have a proper bed in one phase of his life.  There were times when there was no food, so he went hungry.  But somehow...he survived.  And became very successful.  He broke the cycle of living what could have been a horrible life.   And he's humble about it too. 

I learned so much by reading his book that I am just fascinated with his story.  I want to know more.  I want to know what happened to his friends he mentioned his his book.  I want to know what happened to the girl he fell in love with and that suddenly moved to the States as her father got a job here in our country.  He never did get the chance to profess his feelings.  I wonder if he's found her now on Facebook.  Maybe she found him? 

I want to hear him speak the six South African languages he learned, mostly out of survival and some of it rooted in  ancestry.  Check out the Xhosa language.  I find it fascinating.  And he can speak that as his mother was Xhosa.  I've already Googled the other languages too.  Again...I find it fascinating. 

What amazes me the most, is this guy grew up in an era that was rooted in hatred, racism, violence, crime and poverty.  And yet, this guy overcame his hardships and made a career for himself.  Yes, many comedians have some sort of tragic background, thus they cope with comedy and silly jokes.  But this guy makes his experiences funny and in a way, a teaching forum.  He's always grateful and humble for his success.  And he really doesn't say a mean or hateful word about his subjects in his comedic routine.  He's wickedly sharp.  And I want to know more and more and more about his life and hear more of his stories.  I've always been a sucker for a good yarn or two. 

If you haven't read his book yet, I highly recommend putting it on your reading list.  I promise you won't get bored.  There were times I just wanted to hug him, and others I am laughing my ass off.  His mother must be a Saint and that is all I will say about that.  Check it out folks-"Born a Crime" -it's a good read.  And you just might find yourself wanting to know more about him just like me.  Until next time....elizinashe. 
Something To Remember